Popularity.

I was on Facebook today and was just browsing over some old friends pages from high school. I came across one young girl's page. I can remember this girl quite vividly and will probably always remember her. She was loud, bubbly and outgoing. She had a heart of gold and was always wanting to be friends with people, but it sometimes got to the point where it showed a point of desperation. Therefore, making her naive to people using her as a doormat and taking full advantage of what she had to offer. [Which for the record makes me sick.]

I saw that she made a post on her page about popularity and how people become "popular". I was a tad bit curious on what people were giving her for advice and what their views were on popularity, so I read up. Here's what I found:

Original Post:

"What do people do to be popular ??? Fml"

Response 1:

be fake and not act like themselves. be who other people want them to be.
your amazing the way you are Hun
stay true to yourself

Response 2: (from girl who made original post)

It's hard to be in this fucked up world

Response 3:

I agree with ***** (response 1.)


After reading this and what the comments were, something in me sort of snapped. They were viewing popularity in almost a materialistic sense! Now, don't get me wrong, but yes, the girls that have the nice cars, the new GUESS purses and the cute little figures are popular. However, it's a temporary popularity. People flock to those they wish to be or be like, but at the end of the day, once high school is over, everything will change. It's inevitable. True popularity on the other hand will last a lifetime. I know what you're thinking, 'A lifetime?? That doesn't sound right.' But it's true. I ended up making my own comment on her post and hopefully you'll understand where I'm coming from once you read it.

My Response:

Not everyone acts fake and isn't true to themselves though. When I was in high school, I wouldn't say that I was a grade A loser or anything but I was popular in my own sense. People respected me because I was myself and if you didn't like that, then I didn't have the time for you. But at the end of the day, I was nice to everyone (for the most part) and always was there for others. I just tried to be the best friend I could possibly be and that's was what mattered most. Popularity isn't measured in who has the coolest clothes, who dates the captain of whatever team or who threw the craziest raging party on the weekend. Popularity is measured in your friends and how they respect you and treat you. The nicer and more appreciative you are to others, the more inclined people will want to be around you.
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